To say that I am beaming with pride over the new Advice section of my site is putting it mildly! I have received so many incredible questions and I can’t wait to answer all of them! Keep them coming!
However, I do need to warn those of you who submit questions to me. I am brutally honest and I don’t plan to hold back. I see things from a very different perspective than most people that I’ve come across and I plan to allow that to carry over in my column. I was raised to believe that honesty is important in every aspect of life. In my opinion, the only thing gained by not telling the truth is mistrust and misdirection. My intent is never to offend anyone but, only to give you a real, true no holds barred answer from my heart. My goal with this column is to empower men and women from all walks of life to look at their lives and situations a bit differently.
I’ve found that most of the advice columns I have read give cookie cutter answers that don’t get to the meat of the problem and diligently strive to not offend anyone. I call those “acquaintance answers.” Acquaintance answers are designed to just coddle you and make you feel better without actually taking any kind of a stance. Wait a minute….doesn’t that sound an awful lot like most of the presidential debates? Hmmm….
Anyway, I promise you that my column is not going to follow suit! Don’t get me wrong – my intent is certainly not to be controversial or harsh for the sake of gaining publicity or notoriety. I think we can all attest that I despise that kind of thing! But, I will be giving the bare bones, honest truth as I see it. So, as my very entertaining Father always says, “Then, whad’ya ask me for?! By God, don’t ask me if you don’t want the truth! You asked me – so, I’m gonna tell ya!” I suppose you can clearly see where I get it from, huh?!
With Friendship and Respect,
Beth =)
As most of you know by now, I was recently asked to appear on the daytime talk show, Anderson hosted by Anderson Cooper. I was told that I was going to be discussing one of the articles that I wrote for The Huffington Post about men and women’s inability to share intimacy in modern society. Well, let’s just say that the rug was jerked out from underneath me when I arrived on set.
I was shocked to find out that even “respected journalists” are swayed by the sensationalism surrounding daytime television. I was attacked, berated and the entire segment had nothing to do with what I had written. My words were twisted and I became a whipping post for angry women everywhere. I spent the majority of the show defending myself for something I didn’t even say! I have been reeling from this incident for several days, if not weeks. But, I’m finally over it and moving on! It takes a lot more than that to keep me down! I spent a few days, if not a week doing some “mental health care days” and I’m feeling much better!
However, I am definitely scarred from the incident. Let’s just say that it brought back a lot of memories from childhood of having to endure insults and prejudices. I am now finding it hard to believe anything that I see read or see on television anymore. Trust me, I’ve never been naïve to the fact that you can’t believe everything you read or see on TV. But, in light of this election year and everything I’ve experienced I’m even more a non-believer!
It’s incredible how editing and the right mix of people can certainly make someone look completely different than how they truly are! A quick change in wording can certainly make something sound much, much different! So, as I always say – lesson learned! But, I hope that you will all watch the show on February 8th and write in to the show with your opinions – good or bad.
So now that I’ve made my peace publicly I can move on! This weekend holds some very exciting things! The relative that I made mention of in my post titled “Forgiveness” is flying in this evening for a visit. I am so excited! I can’t wait to hug her neck and tell her that I love her! It is a big step for her to fly all the way across the country but, she’s a strong girl and I couldn’t be prouder!
I hope that you will forgive me for being so behind on my emails but, I’ve been through the wringer this past month! But, positive energy trumps negativity any day! I’m on fire today and ready to get back in the saddle!! Get ready because there’s a lot of exciting things in store this month!
With Friendship and Love,
Beth =)
To say that this year has started off on the right foot would be a serious understatement. I’m feeling better and more focused that I ever have in my entire life! I’ve lain to rest so many demons from years past and found more peace than I could’ve ever imagined for myself – all thanks to you. The amount of love and support that you have shown me has meant the world to me and keeps me on a motivated path of positivity every day. Thank you so much for that! Keep that up and you’ll bring this Southern Belle to tears yet again! I sing your praises every single day, believe that.
To be honest, I have found it difficult over the past few months to really determine exactly what the path is that I need to be on to get my message of empowerment and smart politics out there. With “legal prostitute” as the moniker that seems to overshadow all others, it’s been difficult to break out of the stereotypical “porn-esque” adult market and get my message out to a wider and more mainstream audience. Education and truth is my passion, as you know! But, let me tell you – it is as clear as day to me now where I need to be in my career and I certainly couldn’t be more excited!! I’m bubbling over with anticipation for the upcoming year and all that it has in store for us!
Although I have expressed a desire to be a mouth piece for legalized regulated brothels, I also want to be a voice for personal empowerment and sexual health education. So! Like I always say – if you want something bad enough – let your dreams guide you and take steps to make them a reality! I’ve begun an incredibly exciting program through Indiana University in order to receive my Sexual Health Educator certification in the hopes of being accepted in the AASECT, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Which is a non-profit organization that I hope will give me not only the credentials but the real time, know-how to really make an impact with my own future non-profit organizations. I know you’ve all heard me talking about these projects, the first of which being Strip Up, LTD and I certainly hope to make a reality soon!
I’m finding out more and more that the federal government is quite leery of new non-profits considering the current state of our economy. Although, I understand and I’m actually glad to know that they keep a watchful eye over these types of organizations – it isn’t making my life any easier! But, hey! I’m not one to take the easy way out in anything I do so, I’ll just take steps to do it the right way! It takes time, money and certainly a lot of the Bethany brand of “can do spirit!” I have faith in my project and look forward to the fruits of my labor helping others better their lives.
In the meantime, I’m working on a book and lots of other projects that I hope you’ll all keep an eye out for. Next week, I will launch my Sex, Love and Life advice section on my site. I’m so looking forward to hearing about you, your life and anything else you’d like to share with me! There will be an email address designated just for those questions so, please, please, please do not hesitate to email them over! Well, I suppose I should wrap this up and get to work on all the other things I have to do today. I leave for Sheri’s tomorrow and I’m looking forward to another exciting visit chock full of new adventures!
With Love and Friendship,
Beth =)